@redditships, a Twitter account dedicated to relationship advice on Reddit
Something I see a lot on social media (particularly on advice subreddits like r/relationships and r/AITA) is a sort of default response of ‘this person needs therapy’. Whilst I am a huge advocate for therapy (obviously!), and I strongly believe that everyone can benefit from therapy, I also believe that therapy is not the ‘one size fits all’ answer that is is often presented as.
You will only get out of therapy what you are willing to put in - if you come to therapy (or come to talk about a specific issue) before you are ready, you won’t benefit nearly as much as if you wait until you feel ready.
Even if you go and see the best therapist in the world and pay thousands of pounds an hour, the vast majority of the therapeutic work you do will be by yourself, in your own head, and no one can make you do this if you’re not ready.
That’s not to say that if your partner is hesitant to come to therapy then they are a lost cause and you should break up, but rather it will be infinitely easier to facilitate lasting and impactful change in your relationship if you are both coming into the therapy room with an open mind.
