A few weeks ago I was interviewed for a piece in Cosmopolitan about the signs that show up in therapy that mean a relationship is not working. The article features quotes from many amazing sex and relationship therapists including Aoife Drury and Cate MacKenzie. I spoke about Gottman’s Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse:
Criticism: criticising your partner’s character rather than telling them how their behaviour affected you
Contempt: mocking, belittling, ridiculing, or dismissing your partner
Defensiveness: refusing to hear feedback from your partner
Stonewalling: refusing to engage in difficult conversations by ignoring them, walking away, acting too busy to talk etc.
You can read the full article here.
